Davis Foundation for Providing Emotional Comfort for Anxiety, Depression and Stress Through Self-Hypnosis

Current Message

Message of September 1

When faced with a problem a person tends to choose the most expeditious solution in order to most quickly end the disequilibration. But sometimes the easiest solution is not the best one.

A woman who needed to bolster her shaky self-esteem did so by taking advantage of a friend's demotion to subtly belittle her. She hurt her friend and, by alienating and losing her, hurt herself. Turning on her friend was irresistible because it was such an easy solution.

Another easy but erroneous solution to a problem is to join in a "group think" attitude. A man who worked with the homeless at first respected them. But his fellow workers uniformly disdained them. As he spent time in this circle he found himself adopting the same attitude. It was easier than bucking the trend.

Many people have a tendency to project their own attitudes onto others. We have all seen the individual who assumes that we think as they do about an issue. For many it is hard to listen to opposing views and they miss out on learning new things.

Although some people view others with suspicion because of their own dishonesty it can also be dangerous to reflexively and naively see others as good. This is the easy solution for people who are threatened by confrontation or frightened by evil.

Every time someone chooses an easy solution over a truer one they lose in one way or another. Of course people don't consciously and deliberately choose the easy solution. This is done out of awareness as the mental apparatus hones in on the solution that will most effectively diminish disequilibration in a given circumstance. That choice then becomes locked in and is repeated in similar situations.

Fortunately for us, our Inner Guides unlock maladaptive habit patterns and replace them with true solutions. This happens over time and you may still be in the process of shedding old ways of reacting.

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For those of you who have developed finger signals, ask your Inner Guide whether you are unknowingly choosing an easy solution over a true one.

For those of you who have developed automatic handwriting, ask your Inner Guide whether you are unknowingly choosing an easy solution over a true one. If so, ask what that habit pattern is.

For those of you who haven't established direct communication yet: upon going into trance, ask your Inner Guide which finger represents "yes." If a finger or thumb raises or tingles, then ask which finger represents "no." Even if you don't get a response, this practice will hasten the day when you do.

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I welcome your questions and comments and I look forward to hearing from you either by post or at info@davis-foundation.org. They will be anonymous unless you indicate that you would like to be named.

Best regards,

Judith M. Davis